As I meet people and talk with them about what I do, they often ask me how to deal with self-doubt. Inside, I smile because I know something about this person that always surprises them. I guess you may not have thought about it either.
The Surprising Truth About Self-Doubt
Self-doubt can actually be a sign of intelligence. People who question themselves often do so because they know the complexities and challenges in any situation. They are thoughtful and considerate.
But here's the catch: while a healthy dose of self-reflection is good, too much self-doubt can be paralyzing.
My Battle with Self-Doubt
Every morning after I left my job of 25 years and started my business, I would wake up with self-doubt screaming in my head. I would think, "Who am I kidding? I can't do this." The fear of failure was so strong that it nearly stopped me from trying.
Does this sound familiar? If so, you're not alone. Some of the most successful people I know still grapple with self-doubt regularly.
Why We Doubt Ourselves
So why does this happen? Why do we doubt ourselves even when we have evidence of our capabilities?
The answer lies in our brain's wiring. Our brains are designed to keep us safe and avoid risk and potential failure. This was great when we were cavemen trying to avoid being eaten by predators, but in today's world, this same mechanism can hold us back from taking the risks necessary for growth and success.
The Real-Life Impact of Self-Doubt
Self-doubt doesn't just affect our personal lives; it can have real consequences in our professional lives, too. I've seen talented friends turn down promotions because they didn't think they were "ready." I've watched brilliant colleagues stay quiet in meetings, their great ideas left unshared because they were afraid of sounding "stupid."
The cost of self-doubt is high, but it doesn't have to be this way.
A Practical Step Towards Self-Belief
Here's one simple yet powerful exercise you can do right now:
Write down three things you've accomplished. They don't have to be huge, life-changing events.
Maybe you learned a new skill, helped a friend in need, or simply got through a tough day.
That small act of acknowledging your achievements, no matter how small, can be incredibly powerful. It reminds you of your capabilities and starts to build a foundation of confidence.
You Are Enough
Self-doubt is a common human experience, but it doesn't have to define you. By acknowledging your accomplishments, understanding the roots of self-doubt, and taking small steps to build your confidence, you can start to see yourself as you truly are: a capable, worthy individual with so much to offer.
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