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Writer's pictureDavid Luscher

How to Reinvent Your Identity: Lessons from Cary Grant



I was on a Zoom call recently from my home office, with one of my bookshelves behind me displaying my collection of hardback books. I emphasize “one” of the bookshelves because, between my wife and me, our home looks like a mini Barnes & Noble.

Toward the end of the meeting, someone asked why I had so many biographies of Cary Grant. I had read them years ago and forgotten about them, but there they were, staring back at me. Not knowing what else to say, I shrugged and replied, “I want to be Cary Grant.”


The Timeless Charisma of Cary Grant


During my teenage years, I would watch Cary Grant’s films—sometimes two or three different ones back-to-back—analyzing his on-screen persona. He was always charismatic, suave, confident, and effortlessly charming. His sense of style was impeccable, and he exuded independence and resilience in every situation. Who wouldn’t want to be like that?

Today, we see echoes of Cary Grant’s persona in actors like George Clooney, Jon Hamm, Pierce Brosnan, and Daniel Craig. But how did these icons cultivate such charisma?


Creating a Powerful Identity: A Lesson from Cary Grant


“Everybody wants to be Cary Grant. Even I want to be Cary Grant. I have spent the greater part of my life fluctuating between Archie Leach and Cary Grant; unsure of either, suspecting each. I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be until finally, I became that person. Or he became me.” - Cary Grant


This quote by Cary Grant perfectly encapsulates the art of reinventing your identity. We decide who we want to be—and then become it. Identity is not fixed; it can be shaped and reinvented.


The Power of Reinvention


We all have the power to redefine ourselves, especially when seeking a fresh start or aspiring to change our circumstances. Reinvention is a transformative tool, but it requires commitment and consistency in living out the new identity you aspire to embody.


Our identity shapes our actions and decisions. The beliefs we hold about who we are exert the most significant influence on our behaviors and our lives.


Who Do You Want to Be?


How do you see yourself? If you could be anyone, who would it be? What characteristics do you admire most about them?


When shaping your identity, remember there is one crucial technique that, if missed, can cause significant setbacks. I’ll discuss that important aspect tomorrow—stay tuned.



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